Todays blog is more for the partner of someone withendometriosis, and has a few small tips for how to help your partner whenthey’re struggling with a flare up. A lot of the things you can do to help arecommon sense, but can often get forgotten about.
Run a hot relaxing bath – if you have magnesium bath saltsadd these too! The heat from the bath, especially when combined with magnesiumbath salts, can really help with pain. Popping Netflix on, bringing them a hotdrink and lighting candles can help them to relax a bit more (and I find notbringing my phone in with me helps me to relax as well).
Be patient and understanding – this one is definitely commonsense, but is not always an easy one to remember! This one also goes for bothparties in a relationship (as mentioned in my previous blog post), take theirpoint of view into account.
Make the most of their good days – plan something nice, thatisn’t very strenuous that you both would enjoy.
Monitor them – not in a creepy watching their every move,not letting them out of your sight kind of way. But if they say they’re inpain, or they look like they’re struggling pay attention to it. Have you seenthem experience this before? Have they done anything similar on theseoccasions? Have they eaten anything similar to previous flare ups or have theyeaten anything new? Sometimes for the person with an illness, it is difficultfor them to spot patterns, so as someone on the outside of the illness you arein a great position to spot potential triggers or patterns early.
Be open to learning – if there is something you don’tunderstand, just ask! Research elements of endometriosis that you want to learnmore about, or that affect your partner particularly. It always means a lot tome when I’m talking to someone about my endometriosis and they are eitherasking me loads of questions or have clearly done their homework and are wellversed in it. I’m sure your partner will be able to let youknow of any specific ways that you can help them. I find my pain is a lot worsewhen I’m cold, and after explaining this to my partner he always makes sure toheat up a microwaveable heat pack when he gets up in the morning if it’s a bitchilly (he’s usually up 30 mins – an hour before me). Small things like thiscan make a big difference, and will be greatly appreciated.